Opening together - Finding our sacred community

Hello beauty-full ones! 


For most of my life I've felt like my spiritual journey has been a basically solo path. I've had great friends and partnerships come and go, and been involved in communities, but it's always felt like two separate worlds - the inner word of my relationship with the Divine, and the outer world and my relationships with others. And while I can talk about spirituality with my husband and friends, this feeling of loneliness and separation has still persisted. 


And I hear this from many of my clients and people I talk to, this sense of loneliness on the path, of having these deep experiences of communion with God in the quiet moments within, but how do I then share that with those I love? 


I have felt a deep yearning for community, for people to share my self with on a deeper more authentic level. People I can be totally honest with and express the fullness of the Love that I feel inside. 


Many of us feel this way, it's human nature, we crave relationship, to share and experience love. 


But what I notice for me is that, the deeper I go into my personal healing, the feelings of vulnerability and sensitivity have become so much more acute, as the false layers of personality I've created to protect myself unravel and fall away. 


It's scary sometimes to walk in this world with this new level of vulnerable presence, of just being raw, and there's a part of me that wants to contract around that and avoid people out of protection.


And while part of it for me has been to acknowledge how sensitive I am and be discerning about the people and situations I spend time around, part of it is also to allow myself to keep opening, with others, to share my self even though I feel scared, and put my heart out there anyway. 


It's hard! It's easy now for me to go be with nature and open to the Bliss of Oneness and expanded consciousness, but then to sit with another human being, and open to the same level is scary! I just feel so exposed!


But I'll tell you what, the more I've been doing it, the more I've been attracting the friends who appreciate and reflect the same back at me.


It's as simple as just being honest with others, about how I'm really feeling, not putting on a happy face all the time trying to be likable. And doing my work in the world, expressing my gifts (this Blog for example). Just telling the truth, and telling the truth about how I feel about others too. Giving people complements from the heart, letting people know how much I care about them.


We always want life to work in this order: "Okay Universe, bring me some like-hearted friends so I can finally share myself authentically."


And the universe goes: "Actually hunny, you need to share yourself Authentically, then we'll bring you the like-hearted friends who will reciprocate that."


And something else I've noticed is the Universe gives you a lot for a little. So a drop of authentic self expression will deliver a bucketful of support. Then you give just a cup and receive a bathtub full! 


Bottom line though guys is that we're really not meant to do this on our own. The awakening that is occurring on planet earth right now is a group effort, and we're here to share it. 


And in fact, there's something about sharing it with another, our insights, our light, our healing, and our love, that makes it somehow more real, as if expressing it and having it witnessed and received allows the change to become integrated and take root on a deeper level. 


And we have an effect on one another, especially when two people come together both willing to share from that space of authenticity and vulnerability. There's a spiraling sensation that happens, where one person's expression of Truth awakens and expands Truth for the other person, and back and forth it goes, until an even wider space of openness is reached that may have not been possible for each person individually. 


But we have to be willing to go there, to be vulnerable, to be honest and real, and open our heart to another. And be willing to keep opening and communicating through the hard spots too, because the other inherent gift in relationship is that we are mirrors both for the love within us, and for the woundedness within us. 


Usually when we hit those road blocks of "she said that, and I felt hurt..." we close down, and either ignore it but put a wall around our heart when we interact with that person, or we simply cut them out of our lives. 


The gift though if both parties are willing to listen and open in mutual compassion, is to walk through those barriers, and have a healing instead of a breakup. 


And I think the times we are in are calling us to this realization more then ever. Those of us who are on the transformation path are being moved into position to play our part in the larger play of the ascension of consciousness here on planet earth. And we depend on each other to all play our roles on cue, to carry this thing off without a hitch. And really we can't make a mistake....because even what we would judge as a "mistake" is all part of the process too. 


So let's just take a break from being so consumed with our own "character" and look around, realize what we're all doing here, and have some fun.


The Angels let me know today that the Solstice in June coming up will be a mile marker for us, in coming out of some of the heavier energy of deep individual emotional processing, and joining together in community celebration instead. 


So I'm going "Yes! Finally! Party on the earth plane!! Yippee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'll bring the hummus!!" 


LOL! So I appreciate you all who are reading this, because you are a part of my heart and community (I like to think that my community is a reflection of my heart) and I love you, and send you blessings for this next phase of the journey. 


Let's play!!


~Jessica


www.EffortlessLivingCoach.com