Friday, May 11, 2012

Daring to Love and Live Wide Open!


         As I sit here and open to what I’m supposed to write about, my heart just feels so open and in Love with Life! I mean I am positively bursting with love in this moment! Love for everyone in my life, love for the miracles that are unfolding around me, in every sacred breath, Love for Love itself! I FREAKIN LLOOOOOOOOVVVVVVVVVVVVVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!
          It’s so beautiful, to feel this openness, to be overwhelmed with gratitude for it all, I just want to cry! And laugh! And scream! And dance!!! And even though I’m sitting here very still and quiet, all of that is happening on the inside anyway!!!! It’s as if there’s a party in my heart!!!!!!!!!! AND YOU’RE ALL INVITED!!!!!!! WOOOOOOHOOOOOO!!!!
          I didn’t always feel this way though of course. This is kind of a new experience, to be sitting here in a local coffee shop with my lap top, having a full on soul-gasm for no apparent reason other then clearly seeing how AWESOME I am and Life is!

          As a child I easily rested in this space of pure openness and Love. I was fascinated by life and how it worked, and totally immersed in each moment, filled with awe, excitement, and joy. But then like so many of us, Life closed in on me and I started to shut down my heart, my light, and my love.  
          My heart was broken when the world didn’t meet me with the same innocence that I expressed. My parents divorced when I was 8, my mom was an alcoholic, my dad wasn’t emotionally present, I struggled with making friends, and was hurt many times, bullied even.
          For such a sensitive soul like myself, I didn’t know how to process these experiences, I took it all so personally as a child, thinking there must be something terribly wrong with me, and not knowing how to be, because I couldn’t be what I thought other people wanted me to be, but I didn’t feel safe to be myself. So I just shut down, and started living life from outside myself, in a state of disassociation.
          This resulted in deep depression, anxiety, and chronic fatigue syndrome in my early teen years. I pretty much threw in the towel on my life. It was all too much, I couldn’t bring myself to get out of bed, let alone face going to school. It was like it just hurt to be alive in a body, and so bed was where I stayed for three months straight. The only place I felt safe.
          And I reached a cross roads where I had to make a choice: stay or leave. I knew I couldn’t go on living the way I was, but I didn’t want to give up.
Then there was a little voice inside me one night that spoke to me and said “you can heal yourself. There’s something more for you here.” And I grabbed onto that voice, knowing that it came from some deeper place of truth then the chaos of my mind, and as they say…. the rest is history.

          I healed myself. I devoured spiritual and personal growth books, I opened to my spirit, to my connection with the Universe, a source of Love that was so much bigger then me, and yet, not separate from me in any way. All at the tender age of 15.
          It’s been a journey since then, of slowly but surely peeling back the layers of protection I formed around my heart and soul out of my pain, facing that pain, standing side by side with it, and embracing it like a friend until it drops it’s shape, to be replaced by deeper compassion for myself and all beings simultaniously.

          It’s like we spend so much time trying to hide from the monsters in our closets, when really if we just open up the door, and give them a hug, we realize they are all just little kid versions of ourselves dressed up in Halloween costumes to try and get our attention!
          So now that this original innocence (and we all thought it was original sin! Bahahahaha!!!) has been revealed again, how now do I live in the world as a pure open being, daring to love fully, and not shut down?
          Well, the key insight I am realizing in this very moment that is the difference between the innocence of the child I was, to the woman I am now, is the recognition that NOTHING I WANT IS OUTSIDE OF ME! I am not separate from the Love I once sought! IT’S ALL RIGHT HERE WITHIN!!!!!!!!!! That’s a major paradigm shift!
          And when we realize that there is nothing outside of us, just projections and reflections of our own inner divinity in play (even the icky stuff), there is no more seeking and grasping to try and get love, and so no trauma when it is withheld from us. Feeling a lack of love from outside simply becomes the signal to give that which we seek to ourselves.

          So I say Dare to Love! Dare to live life totally open! Breath through the pain of the heart that breaks again and again, each time leaving behind a deeper and wider opening for the Love that we are to fill and shine through.

          AND WE ARE FREEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!! Totally utterly free to be who and what we are!!!! To shine our brightness, our greatness, our glory, not to prove anything, not to get anything, but for NO REASON other then to be AWESOME and experience the pure BLISS of being alive!!!!!!

          YES! LIFE CAN BE THIS GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So may this next breath (INHALE) be a Blessing upon you (EXHALE) and upon all beings everywhere as we open together in this holy moment!

Love always,
~Jessica 


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